Wednesday, February 20, 2013

A Letter from Jada Pinkett Smith on Blended Families

In our Noonday and Evening Bible Studies, we are currently studying the Christian Home. It has been amazing! Both eye opening and jaw dropping some of the opinions I have heard that was not based on one ounce of Biblical fact concerning the roles and responsibilities of husbands and wives.

We have taught from the original intent of God concerning marriage. I realize everyone has not followed or was not aware of God's blueprint for marriage so we have divorced people, remarriages, children outside of wedlock and blended families.

In early preparation, I have found Biblical and Secular stories to try and highlight this issue. I ran across a letter I am using for an example. Let me say as a disclaimer, I am not sure if this actual letter that has been accredited to Jada Pinkett Smith belongs to her or not, nor am I endorsing all of what she believes or stands for. I will continue to say The Word of God is our example; however, the words of this letter, regardless of the source or the origin is worthy of discussion in our (YAM) Young Adult Ministry Discussion as well as in our Bible Study.

This is the letter:

A letter to a friend: Blended families are NEVER easy, but here's why I don't have a lot of sympathy for your situation because... we CHOOSE them. When I married Will, I knew Trey was part of the package...Period! If I didn't want that...I needed to marry someone else.

Then I learned if I am going to love Trey...I had to learn to love the most important person in the world to him...his mother. And the two of us may not have always LIKED each other... but we have learned to LOVE each other.

 
I can't support any actions that keep a man from his children of a previous marriage. These are the situations that separate the women from the girls. Your behavior is that of an insecure child who needs to recognize her own weaknesses that MUST be strengthened to take on the task at hand.

We can't say we love our man and then come in between him and his children. THAT'S selfishness...NOT love. WOMAN UP... I've been there...I know. My blended family made me a giant… Taught me so much about love, commitment and it has been the biggest ego death to date. It's time you let your blended family make you the giant you truly are.
J


WHAT DO YOU THINK????????

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